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Calling
All Women! Don't Call Him First!
The perfect evening out with the girls ends in meeting
a great guy and actually getting his phone number, and
giving him yours, right? Well of course! You then do
your secret little victory dance while he is not looking,
and pride yourself on being strong and walking away
with only a kiss and a smile. But then - the sinking
feeling begins as the wait prolongs. Should YOU call
him? How long do you wait? What if he never calls?
As
a woman you are entitled to certain things. One is the
right to change your mind at any given moment. The other
is the right to RECEIVE the first call. So let me make
that clear. You do NOT make the first call. Men chase
- not women. |
Actually, most men LIKE to
be the pursuer in a relationship. Women perceived in the roll
of the aggressor can be easily misconstrued as pushy, clingy
or needy. Even if that was not your intent, it can be seen
that way - so - let him call you.
Reason number two to let him
be the first to call - one little word - "effort".
Have you ever heard the old saying "Why buy the cow if
you can have the milk for free?" Well, from a dating
perspective, if you are so eager for him that you cannot even
wait for him to call you - what does he have to do? Nothing.
He knows you want him, and that gives him the advantage.
But there also another side
effect to becoming the pursuer. It will completely KILL the
chances of attraction growing, for you AND him. Like it or
not, dating is a game at first. It's a fun game of chase,
cowboys and Indians, cat and mouse, whatever you want to call
it. But if you lay down and surrender before the game has
even begun, do you think he is going to want to play? No.
Thirdly - you are in demand,
baby! You need to show him, or let him believe that you are
in demand, you are a sought after item and you are not going
to be on the shelf for long! Do not, under any circumstance,
let him think that you are sitting by the phone eagerly awaiting
his call.
And while you very well MAY
BE sitting there waiting for him to call - don't you DARE
pick up that phone the first time he does! You are OUT! You
are having fun, somewhere, NOT thinking of him. If you have
to duct tape the phone to the wall - do not answer it. Wait
a minimum of three hours before calling him back. Better yet,
wait until the next day. His imagination will do wonders for
YOU.
The fourth and final reason
- allowing this to continue for a while - him calling you
to ask you out - lets you know 100% that HE is INTERESTED
in you. We all know what it feels like to sit there and wonder
if he really is into you or not. Well, ladies, if he keeps
calling, he IS. If you call though, every time you think about
him, you are not going to know if he is chatting just to be
nice. That will breed insecurity, then more needy behavior
and - you guessed it - snuff the attraction.
So be the woman, and let him
be the man. Let him call you. And if he doesn't call? His
loss, honey. He was not showing you his true face then anyway,
and you don't want that. So go and let him get you girl!
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targeted specifically for WOMEN. Check out Dating Tips by
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Article Source: AllWomenCentral.com
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